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- Tangled Vines by John Glatt
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I wasn’t around much last week due to my father-in-law passing away. He was diagnosed with multisystem cancer in the middle of May. They attempted radiation, but his body couldn’t handle it. We got the call he was going home for hospice care. He was home for 5 days, then passed. All the family was there (except me because I had JUST walked out of the house). It was tough because, while we knew he had cancer, he wasn’t up front about how bad things were. He lives about 2 hours north of my husband and I, so i was driving up there almost every day this past week. My husband stayed at the house with his step-mom a couple days so they could get the funeral arrangements set and what not. His visitation is on Wednesday and the funeral is Thursday. My family doesn’t really do funerals and such. It just isn’t something my mom’s family has ever done so preparing for a funeral is hard for me.
All that led to a discussion between my husband and I about what we want when we come to that stage of life. Neither of us wants to be at home. It was just so difficult for his dad and really challenging for everyone taking care of him. Physically moving him so he doesn’t get bed sores, changing his diapers, giving medications to him when he couldn’t really swallow (hospice didn’t do an IV or anything). I don’t want anyone to have to do that for me. It is hard on the people grieving, but it was less dignity for my father in law. I want no funeral either. And, I want to be cremated. The whole open casket thing really freaks me out. After his dad passed, the body stayed in house for 4 hours! They wanted to give everyone time to come say goodbye. It was just awful sitting in the room with a dead body. It is just so not for me. But, my husband’s step mom wants it this way, so I am sucking it up. My husband agreed-he doesn’t want to be at home either, and wants cremation as well. This was just hard on us in so many ways.
I had a soft start back to work on Friday. It was a day for just the new hires to get necessary info and meet each other. I got my county issued laptop and iPad and met the other psych for the district I am assigned to. Overall, it was good! We have our official 1st day on Tuesday (then thankfully, my school doesn’t start until the 14th or else I would have had to take off for the funeral).
So, whats new with you this week? Did you read any of the same books I did? Did you find any great book deals I need to grab ASAP? Let me know in the comments!
I’m sorry Samantha. You are helping by letting them do it their way. Everyone wants something different I guess. It’s good that school is not completely started for you and this won’t take you out of school when you are already in a new place.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss! The whole situation sounds really tough. That’s good school wont start till after the funeral at least.
My sincere sympathies on your loss. My father is currently undergoing radiation for Prostate cancer and though he tells us the prognosis is good, it’s tough to know how true that is. Your end of life plan is just like mine, caskets freak me out too.
Wishing you a great reading week
Oh I’m so sorry to hear that. Yes, the dignity thing, I often feel like we have a lifetime with family and then at the end to have to go through that- pain, the indignity, often there are financial issues, what to do about funerals. Yes.
Thank you for your comment on my blog too. Just thinking about stuff like this, then seeing this post.
I’m very sorry about your father-in-law, my condolences!
It is a difficult situation to have someone pass at home. I brought my sister home and taking care of her was challenging and tore me apart. I’m sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your loss Samnatha! It seems like a heavy week. I hope next week and the weeks after will be softer on you both!